Looks like you're in the UK. Did you know The Strategist is too? Ilaria Perrone, sex columnist for Grazia. Skyping from Milan, Perrone explained the hazards of dick-centric dating and swearing. What is dating like in Italy? It can be very difficult, because in Italy men date because they want to have sex. They are not always interested in you as a person. If you go with a boy in Milan, you know 90 percent of the time, you will be with him that night.
He will always try. But if you want to see him again, you have to wait. I meet him on Tinder and we go out to dinner. Italian men are romantic, but they are also liars. They treat you like a princess, and the next day they disappear. That is also a kind of lie. So is it always sex on the first date? Blow job? Something else? No, no. In Italy it is totally different, we have sex first. I know in New York you do the other things first, then sex after, but here we think blow jobs are more private than sex.
You can have sex with a condom on a first date, but oral sex is more complicated. All five senses. If those women never give oral sex, do they still receive it? You know, I was discussing this during dinner with a friend of mine recently. We have to describe the action, licking the puss. If you walk down the street in Rome, boys will call you figa. Oh, like a rude compliment. We just use the other part. Do you have a word for rim job?
No, what is that? When you lick a butthole. You do? Yes, several! Nicki Minaj raps about it. What about words for penises? We have so many of those! In the south, they say minchia. In the north, cazzo. Che cazzo fai? You could say it to men who call you a pezzo di figa. We also have different words for men and women masturbating each other. Because of the back-and-forth movement? How violent. I think all of the words about men are violent. Yes, I think so. They still had their parents.
They are open about men. In this country, men can do whatever they want because they are men, they are like this, they need sex, they need affairs. Men who have a lot of women are real men. What about women who have lots of men? The opposite. I think we are now changing ages, but men have had the most change. It makes it more difficult to have relationships. A lot of women become obsessed with finding marriage. I think perhaps this is like New York, a lot of women searching for the right man, and a lot of men running around.
